The scary part about our heart’s response when we refuse to forgive is bitterness. It was once said that bitterness is drinking poison in hopes that someone else dies. The pain and hurt we feel can sit and fester and turn into bitterness if we don’t take the healthy and healing path of forgiveness.
Bitterness can destroy you. It makes your heart so hard that not only do you have bad feelings about the person who hurt you, you begin to project those feelings on everyone else. If you’ve ever met a bitter person, you know what this is like. You may not have hurt them but they still can’t stand you because they’re just bitter. An unforgiving heart quickly becomes a bitter one. A bitter heart goes directly against what God wants for us in that we don’t give people second chances, we don’t even give them a first.
Is there an area of your life where you’ve grown bitter? Is there an area where you need to heal and forgive? Because the hardness that results from holding on to pain is the same hardness that pushed God out of our lives.