Children and Parents – Colossians 3:18-25
Children are called to obey their parents, and while this is sometimes not the easiest thing for children, it also proves to be a very real burden for parents. Our choices and our struggles are not only our own, but they are our children’s as well. When we tell our children to do something, the responsibility of those choices falls on us. Their submission to our leadership makes up the ones who will answer for their actions.
Parents are called not to provoke their children because this may be discouraging to them. In other words, our actions and the way we raise our children should bring them to be encouraged in our faith. We should be building up strong, faithful, and gracious individuals. What he’s warning about is the style of parenting that says we’re supposed to suppress and beat down the bad in our children, provoking them towards rebellion and anger.
This doesn’t mean we let our children do whatever they want. It means that our instruction and discipline is always geared towards making our children better. It is focused on what is best for them and not what is most convenient for us. It’s convenient to shelter our children from everything in the world. It’s convenient to hide them away from some of life’s messy things. It’s building them up when we have hard conversations at the appropriate time. It’s building them up when we show them some of life’s messy things and explain to them the hope that we have instead. It’s harder. However, it does help build them up.
How are you raising your children? Are you raising them up? Are you building them into something greater?