Samson was born, he grew strong, and eventually wanted a wife. At that time he saw a Philistine woman and decided she would be perfect for him. His father interjects and asks him if he couldn’t find anyone from his own country or his own people.
This isn’t a racist action. He wasn’t against the Philistines because he was a racist but instead he knew that if his son married a Philistine woman their culture, religion, and values would influence his own. It’s the same as when our New Testament tells us that we should not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. This isn’t a hateful action but instead shows wisdom surrounding the coming conflict.
Samson avoided the advice. He actually ignored it and spoke against it. He wanted what he wanted and that was all he would hear.
If you’re involved in a community of believers and disciples you should have people pouring advice into you. One of the richest themes in the books of Proverbs is the value, life, and healing that can come from having a multitude of counselors. Have you connected with a small group or a group of people that you can pour into and be poured into by them? Most importantly, is your heart soft enough that when someone speaks advice that you would be willing to hear it?