If you’ve ever been part of a team you know there are two kinds of teammates. One kind is very relaxed, does their part, lets you do yours, and things go well. However, there are other teammates who are all over everything. Micromanagers. They plan and worry and stress and do everything they can to get involved in everything that’s going on. They don’t trust anyone else so they have to be a part of the plan.
Sometimes we micromanage God. It’s crazy to think about it that way, but we do. We tell God he is in control, but meticulously work to get our hands and our way in everything he’s doing. Our prayer life becomes revolved around asking God not to keep his promises (which he does) but to make sure he does it the way we want.
We’ve gotten this idea in church culture that the more we pray about something the more likely it is to happen and somehow that’s changed even moreso into “if I ask enough God will eventually do what I want”.
When we learn to believe the promises of God, we don’t plan for the things he’s promised, we trust God’s plan to be faithful.